Wednesday, June 9, 2010

Don’t be the victim of your own glass ceiling.


If you don’t strive to attain what you feel might be unattainable,
you will never really know the limits of your potential.
I believe we fall victim to our own limitations every day.

Wikipedia defines Glass Ceiling as:
Ceiling: “a limitation blocking upward advancement”
Glass:"transparent because the limitation is not immediately apparent”

Break the Ceiling
Shatter it, climb up and don’t look down.
Here are 5 steps to help you find that ceiling:
(after all, it’s invisible and you might not even know where you put it!)

  1. Pick one aspect of your life that you want to progress or a new goal you feel is unattainable.
    (for example: money, job, family, blog, writing, preaching, coaching)

    Me:   I want to be a published author.
  2. Find an example of someone who has achieved your unattainable goal.
    Me:   There are so many, how can I choose? Ok.. here are two of my favorites.  Both of these women are accomplished authors of memoirs.

    Sarah Saffian author of Ithaka: A Daughter’s Memoir of Being Found
    Elizabeth Gilbert author of Eat, Pray, Love
  3. Tell yourself why you CAN'T do what they did.
    Me:   I can’t be a published author because: I’m not famous. I don’t have a degree in English or writing. I don’t have an agent. I don’t have the financial means for editors or publicist. I’m just a jersey girl, ex computer geek, who knows nothing about publishing a book. Wow… I feel worse now than I did before this exercise.
  4. Take off the blindfold, you’ve just found your ceiling.
    Me:   Ok… All of the reasons stated in #3 are true. I can’t change them. BUT… my ceiling is that I ASSUME these are reasons I won’t get published. If I let these doubts rule me, then I won’t even try, hence the ceiling. If I let my own limitations prevent me from climbing, then one thing is certain, I will never get there.
  5. What next?
    Seeing clearly is the first step to success.
    Tune in next week for: How to keep yourself from keeping you back

Now go. Find your ceiling and let us all know about it.

Thanks for stopping by.
Please support me with your honesty.


  1. There's a lot of wisdom to what you say, and I needed to hear it. Thanks!

  2. Caution Flag >> Thanks for reading. I needed it too! :-)

  3. Buffi, have you self-published any of your books in the past? Are any available? I would like to buy them if they are. Please let me know.

  4. Hi Buffi,

    So true...Have you been reading my mind?

    Wishing you a good day!

  5. Judie
    Thanks so much for asking. I have not self-published yet, but that might become an option for me in the near future. If you have not done so, please take a minute to take the poll so you can be notified when the first one gets published.
    Thanks for stoping by.

  6. Buffi I just took your poll and sent you an email as well. I am passionate about writing! It is a beautiful thing that you are following your dream. Keep going and get published! I would love to read your book!! Here's to much success and to following your dream!


  7. Congrats on your upcoming book!!

    Self motivation is essential to break the ceiling in whatever we do. Good post.

  8. How great to see someone so passionate about her book! Much luck to you in seeing it in print soon!

  9. You inspire me to write...

    I gave you an award!

  10. Thank you all for your words of encouragement and for taking the poll!

    Tiffany>> Thanks for the award! I'll hang it on the right side - it's my first :-)
    - Buffi

  11. Am in love with your blog!!! This is wonderful, and your posts are fantastic.

    Thank you for your writing....