Thursday, June 21, 2012

Calm Down. It's Not A Crack Pipe!

And the woman toting a designer bag and high-fashion sunglasses approaches me in the A&P parking lot. 

She snarls, “You really shouldn't let your kids sit on the roof of your car."

She’s acting like I’m sharing a crack pipe with them.  Obviously, I’m not a kid.  I don’t have a damn clue why sitting on the roof of the car is fun, but it is. 

"Lighten up. What’s the harm?"

Here are some other things I let my kids do:
  • Jump off of the second floor balcony onto the couch
  • Draw with soap crayons all over the windows
  • Climb out their bedroom windows and sit on the roof
  • Drink coffee
  • Shoot my bird house with airsoft guns
But, more importantly, here are the things I don’t let my kids do
  • Bully other kids
  • Disrespect grownups
  • Drink mountain dew, Monster, or Beer
I’ve seen lots of disrespectful little bullies in the schoolyard these days.  Maybe parents should reconsider what bad behavior is.

What do you let your little brats do?

Thanks for stopping by.
Please support me with your honesty.
Buffi

43 comments:

  1. i came over to check out your blog..i'm also following...i let my kids drink coffee..they jump off the wall into our pool...they have jumped off the house onto the trampoline...yes i could keep going..some things they do i don't like..but like you said, i don't tolerate them being disrespectful etc...i'm sure people shake their heads at me..whatever, i'm a good mama..

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    1. I want to live in your house! I always wanted to jump off of the roof onto the trampoline... That is awesome.
      Thanks for stopping by my blog.
      Buffi

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  2. My kids are still really young but at times we eat Popsicles and cupcakes for breakfast and I let them stay up late every now and then. As you said, there are much bigger issues than those and we are working hard to teach our kids to be kind and respectful of others. Newly following and I love the name of your blog :)

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    1. Hi. I love the popsicles and cupcakes for breakfast idea - I'm going to use that for when my nieces sleep over. We do the "soda for breakfast" dance that they love. My brother hates it, which makes it even more fun! :-)
      Thanks for joining the conversation
      Buffi

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  3. Good gawd, from that reaction - you'd think you had the kids tied to the roof while you were drving around town...

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    1. exactly! Some people really need to lighten up!
      Buffi

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  4. Thanks for stopping by Quirky Vistas and leaving me a nice comment and following. I enjoyed reading about your family. Everybody's got their "thing". Thanks for following. I'm following you as well!
    Liz

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    1. Hey Liz,
      Nice to have you aboard! I like any blog that includes the word "quirky" :)
      Buffi

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  5. ha! you're hilarious!!

    thanks for stopping by my blog!

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    1. Rachel - Thanks :-)
      The kids don't think I'm funny - I guess that's 'cause I'm the mom.
      Buffi

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  6. I'm so glad you stopped by my blog! I'm excited to read more of yours!

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    1. Jess - right back at you. Lovin' the blog hop thurs.
      Buffi

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  7. First time visiting your blog and I'm already hooked!
    Thanks for stopping by,
    Mary Alice

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    1. Nice to have you Mary Alice! I love your vintage wash tub. Is that your home? How do you keep those flowers so nice - mine look like shrivled weeds now.
      Buffi

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  8. Hi, Buffi! Wow! You seem like a fun mother to have! How come your kids can jump off a balcony on the 2nd floor without getting hurt, haha! I got so scared when my cat did it from ours!

    All the best luck with your book! ;D

    Have a great day!

    Miki.

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    1. Hi Miki,
      They jump right onto the couch. So... my couch now has no springs and nearly touches the floor!! I have some pictures of the jumps on some earlier posts - I should really repost those.
      Thanks for stopping by.
      Buffi

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  9. Hey, I'm a new follower! Found you thru Thirsty Thursday's blog hop! That's right, have them sit on top of your car rather than bully other people! I feel for you!

    Follow back?

    xo,
    ochibernadas.blogspot.com

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    1. Hey Ochi
      I stopped by your blog - love the peace bathing suit. I want to go on vacation now - those pics are beautiful. I could not figure out how to comment on your blog post - I'm slow :(
      Thanks for the follow,
      Buffi

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  10. I let the kids I look after fall down and then get up by themselves and i ignore them unless they are hurt except to toss them a smile and a virtual pat of confidence as they go back to what they were doing before gravity beat them for a second. I let them taste all kinds of food that others would give me a hard time about; our daughter was loving pickled herring at about six months-with a breast milk chaser of course !~! We let them ride bikes out of sight around the corner of our little neighborhood, wander to the playground several hundred feet away and play with other kids from our development of 450 homes; they know we are here if they need us and often we will just wander over and let them and the other kids know that we are paying attention but not hovering. I instill in them a belief in themselves and their decision-making capabilities by providing them with situations in which they can succeed at this type of interaction. It works very well, too; we've raised a half dozen assets to society and a few compassionate rebels.

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    1. Lynda,
      I love the pickled herring and breast milk - that's great! I think it's harder to let them go free sometimes - it sounds like you have the perfect balance. So... I have to wonder how many kids. Half a dozen plus three??? I would have loved to have that many kids.

      Thanks for stopping by,
      Buffi

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  11. Good for you! Especially the things you don't let them do! I see so many young people who don't respect their elders...I grew up in a time when we always respected our elders, no matter what! Thanks for following my blog. I'm now a follower of yours!
    Cindy

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    1. Cindy,
      It is so true. I have some friends that are teachers and the stories of how kids disrespect is so terrible. We have a lot of work to do with this new spoiled and indulgent generation. I don't always get it right, but I sure do try.
      Thanks for reading.
      Buffi

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  12. You commented on my Follow Friday post and I'm so glad I came and checked out your blog! Thanks for the follow and I'm now following back.

    I took the poll...sounds great! I'm obsessed with Americana stories like that!

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    1. Jessica,
      Thanks for taking the poll. The book will be out in less than 8 weeks and everyone that took the poll will get a notification.
      Thanks for following,
      Buffi

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  13. That's an interesting view. You have to kno how to say no, but you can't take all the fun and freedom from your kids. :)

    I'm following back!

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    1. Kah,
      Thanks for following back. Freedom is certainly a difficult thing to give our kids - I try to strike the right balance without creating monsters. ;-)
      Buffi

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  14. I love your blog! Thanks so much for stopping by my Feature and Follow Friday. I can't wait to read more from you!

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    1. Hi Amie - Thanks for reading. Can't wait for next week's follow.
      Buffi

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  15. Wow, I would never walk up to another mother and tell her what she should or should not let her children do. Where I come from, that would be considered rude. Oh well, some people. Hey, thank you for popping in for a visit, the sweet comment and of course the follow at The Dedicated House. On Monday, pop back in and link up at my Make it Pretty Monday party. Anything family friendly is acceptable. Wishing you a grand weekend...oh, and I'm happily following you! Toodles, Kathryn @TheDedicatedHouse

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    1. Hi Kathryn,
      I *know* - some people are so rude!
      Thanks for the follow and I will definately stop back for your Monday party.

      Buffi

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  16. I let mine work part-time when she was 15 and eat waffles in bed. Kids like to set on the roof of a car because it is goofy, and if you can't be goofy when you are a kid when can you be!!!! Glad your kids are having fun. Thanks for stopping by, Laura

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    1. Hey Laura - So true - youth is the time to be goofy. Sometimes I wish I could stomach a whole bole full of coco-puffs or fruit loops - but you lose something when you turn into an adult.
      Thanks for reading.
      Buffi

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  17. You make me laugh!I love reading your blog, it brightens my day. Glad the book is coming along!

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    1. Hey BK - thanks so much for always reading. The book is certainly one of the most difficult and rewarding accomplishments I have done.
      Buffi

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  18. happily following! thanky you for your kind words on my blog!
    congratulations on your book. it sounds like an awesome story <3
    i loved your post on what you do and do not let your kids do...made me smile :)
    have a wonderful weekend.
    xo
    maria

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    1. Maria,
      Thanks for stopping by the blog and reading.
      Buffi

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  19. Thanks for following me.

    New Follower.

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  20. I have spent quite a little time reading through your posts. You have an incredible gift for writing and I love how you look at the world. Congrats on all the success you are having and your new book!

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    1. Lynn,
      Thank you so much for taking the time to read! Comments like yours helps me hit that "publish" button when my doubtful side gets the best of me!
      Buffi

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  21. Hahaha, my mom fired a babysitter for letting us jump off the balcony to the couch.

    Congratulations on your book! That is fantastic!

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    1. Ninette - That's too funny! My mom would have fired the babysiter too.
      Buffi

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  22. Um, I'm just wondering, was the car moving or something? If not, what's the harm? I used to like to sit on the roof of cars too (not moving ones)...I also used to love to climb out the window onto the roof and look at the stars.

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  23. Thanks for the follow from the blog hop. I enjoy your posts, but this one stuck out the most. I allow my kids to play in the street and they are very observant about cars. They go off to the side when a car comes, we live on a col-de-sac. Anyway my neighbors (they're old)look at me like I'm nuts when they drive by. I'm gladly following and look forward to reading more!

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