There are all degrees of bullying and sometimes kids can even be bullied by adults. On her second week of First grade, I asked my daughter, “Why don’t you want to buy lunch at school anymore?”
She said, “’cause the Lunch Lady screams at me.”
Fighting back all instincts to race to school and kick some crotchety-ass, I said, “There’s only one thing we can do. Bake her cookies.”
We baked the cookies together and imagined why the Lunch Lady was so mean. Maybe she just had a hard life. Maybe she planned on retiring to Florida with her high school sweetheart, but he died before they ever made it out of New Jersey. Now she’s stuck making grilled-cheese sandwiches and mopping floors. Or maybe she just hates the way she looks in a hairnet. We don’t know her story.
My daughter packed the cookies into a brown lunch bag and wrote: To My Lunch Lady, Love Amanda.
She brought cookies to school and handed them over, reluctantly. The Lunch Lady didn’t even glance down. She screamed, “Move it!”
But when Amanda turned around to look at the beast she saw it. It was so brief and subtle anyone else would have missed it completely. A wink and a smile. Lunch Lady never screamed at Amanda again.
Not only did my daughter tame the heart of the bologna-beast, she also learned a few life lessons:
- Don't be the victim
- You have more power than you think
- Love is much stronger than hatred
- Trust your Mommy
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This is such a fantastic story. Thank you for sharing it! Amazing!!!
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Thaat was a great idea to bake her cookies. What a wonderful lesson you taught your daughter about not being a victim.
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Loved reading the Lunch lady story.
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I LOVE this bully story. :D
ReplyDeleteThat was a wonderful idea! I'm glad things worked out for your daughter. Your possibilities for her being so mean were so funny. : )
ReplyDeleteThis fits exactly with my thoughts. We don't know what people are going through, so how can we judge? A little kindness goes a long way. Thanks for posting this! It made me smile. :)
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Brilliant post. I've written about bullying on my blog today, too. But of a slightly different kind - me being bullied by teachers, after my daughter was bullied by fellow pupils and they did nothing to help.
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Great idea to bake her cookies!
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What are your thoughts on the South Hadley issue where systematic persecution drove a 15yo kid to take her life.
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